Modern Friendships & Relationships

How modern have we actually become with our friendships & relationships? 

'Modern' - the word is small but its impact could be huge. Modern means something new, something fresh. Let's say - it means the modified and newer version of something. 

In this case, shouldn't modern friendships mean the better and healthier version of friendships? But have we really achieved that milestone?

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Have we actually become modern or is it still only a term? Let’s dig deeper into it.

We should strive to become better each day, everyday. In the same way, when we live in the modern era, we've to put efforts to make things better than the older ones to modernize them. Are we really doing it? It might seem like we're doing it and some are really out there doing it but most of us are ignorant about it.

We might have become more open about our feelings to each other but we still seem closed. 

In our generation, a huge number of people are depressed despite having multiple friends. Even If they aren't depressed, they aren’t really happy either. Have we ever focused on it?

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When we nurture a relationship, be it with our family members or friends - do we know our first duty?

Our first and foremost duty is to make them happy & keep them happy. 

How can a person be satisfied with his life? He can be - if he stays happy most of the time.

Tension, anxiety, pressure are parts of life but we have to learn to keep ourselves as well as others happy.

In today’s age, we hangout with friends, chill with them, crack jokes, click photographs together to pass time.

But have we ever asked ourselves how much we actually care about seeing the other happy in life? How much effort do we put to bring a smile on each other’s face? Let’s ask - how much are we eager to listen to the other’s problem and try to solve it? If not solving them, are we sensitive enough to be with them, try to make them happy in their crucial times? The questions remain.

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When we’ve come to the modern era, our priority should be making healthier relationships.

When we say healthier relationships - it means non toxicity, less judgemental mindsets, helpful hands, kindness and most importantly, the hearts to make the other one happy.

Well, a lot of people do that but don’t get the same treatment in return. But do they need to get disheartened? No. Because when one learns the techniques to keep someone happy, he automatically learns the process for himself too.

When we love people, we have to create a sweet bond with them. We have to check if they’re happy or not.

If we talk about parents - most parents of today’s age are friendly and conscious about children’s needs.

But are all of them equally conscious about their children’s happiness? 

Well, they need to be.

A lot of us get hurt over insensitive words/mindsets of some people around us.

Have we ever put emphasis on the thought that those words/mindsets should never be repeated by us to anyone?

We might despise some people for their insensitivity but at the same time, it’s necessary for us to take lessons and be a better & a more sensitive person than them. 

Let’s take an example - if a racist person mocks you for being black, you might get hurt and despise them. At the same time, take notes that you’ll never mock someone like that & tell your friends to do the same.

When it’s a collective call, the relationships will definitely become healthier gradually.

If not in our generation, the next generation may get the benefit of not having their hearts broken by insensitive comments.

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In reality, we haven’t been able to make our friendships & relationships completely modern yet.

We have to judge less & be kinder. We have to focus on making the people in our relationships happy.

We've to be the ones to uplift their energy.

If we can’t do that, at least we have to refrain ourselves from hurting people & being insensitive.

This applies to the people of all generations. We’re all living in the modern era - we all have to be equally responsible to make our relationships healthier than the older times. 

Also, if you're looking for ways to make a loved one happy - a hug, chocolates, flowers, gifts, some quality time or simply words of love might do the work!